I think you are starting to understand what women want in a man, but there’s more to it than you suppose. I thought I would give further revelation into the woman’s mind.
(1) Women want to be pursued. Women want/need to be told that they’re someone special, and there are girls who are willing to go through anything to get that. (Have you seen pop music stars? They aren’t the only ones, I’m just shoving them under the bus for the purpose of an example. This is such a fundamental desire, that it can take precedence over anything else.)
(2)I agree that women don’t want a ‘boy’ (though some will go for any guy, see paragraph 1). Why do you think there are so many women who have given up on marriage? Dating? It’s because they have met so few guys, (in relationships) who have been a man. (think mature, responsible, etc).
(3)Confidence is a great attractant. Honestly, I’ve met people who are honestly not good-looking, but are more attractive than the naturally good-looking because they’re okay with not being the most attractive people in the room.
(4)Leader, not a like world-leader, but a guy who will look at you and say, ‘I’ve looked at the options, and I think this is the best option for us’ kind of leader.
(5)Listener, someone who will ask for your input. Someone will ask you how your day was, and not try to fix everything. (guys, please, you’re not God, you can’t fix everything)
(6)Funny, because life is rough, and humor can smooth over tougher spots. Also, don’t be serious all the time, and don’t take yourself too seriously. There will be plenty of times when you will look like a dork, it’s good to able to take it with grace.
(7)Gentleness is an important trait. This determines (partially) how safe the girl feels around you. There’s nothing wrong with rough-housing with other guys, but girls are a different story. If you want to help the girls around you, treat them like ladies, even if they’re not.
(8)Can cook. (This is important not because you have an ability. It is important, because it implies shared responsibilities, indicating partnership in marriage, not totalitarian rule.)
(9)Loyalty is an important thing, because divorces are messy and painful, hurting all involved, no matter what the reason for it was.
(10)Attractive. This is where looks come in, but let me tell you a secret: most guys aren’t bad looking. (Comparable age is important, more than a 25% difference is just not cool. Actually, a 25% age difference is not cool when you’re twenty, unless it’s a twenty-five and twenty sort of age difference.) Honestly, I’ve met very few guys that I immediately thought of as ugly, many more guys I have considered jerks or perverts. I’m not attracted to most guys, actually, I’m the oblivious one. You can be considered the ‘hot’ guy, and I might not realize you exist. It’s embarrassing, but it has happened, more than once.
(11)Respect is a two way street, if you give it, you’ll probably get it.
(12)Passion: think the crazy-in-love-guy in Love Does and you have a pretty good starting idea for this. This doesn’t necessarily mean you should be a total romantic, but it does mean that you actively look for ways to express your love.
There are a lot of girls that settle for only one of the options. It’s like they don’t realize that if they wait, they’ll probably meet someone who is more than just one thing. It’s like they don’t realize their own power. Even if you aren’t necessarily the ‘most beautiful’ girl, you are still female. As a female, you do have a certain amount of power, you can require good treatment. Personality is just as powerful an attractant as looks, and it actually lasts, whereas looks do not. If someone is attracted to you because of your personality, they’re more likely to stick around, anyways.
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